Arrogance and self-confidence are different but yet they are related and subjective judgment. Arrogance has a negative annotation as it gives an impression of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or presumptuous claims. It fosters a negative-minded culture, not to mention the animosity it breeds. People tend to create arbitrary rules and complexities to satisfy some sort of exertion of social judgment by making arrogance a legacy of tyranny and character flaw.
Two factors are assumed to induce impressions of arrogance in reaction to others' accounts for success: the dimensions underlying the cause for success and the perceived desirability of the cause. Weiner's attribution theory has become a major research paradigm of social psychology. It was proposed that circumstances ascribing success to internal, stable, uncontrollable, and desirable causes represent positive given qualities of a person such as intelligence and beauty can lead to perceptions of arrogance and lack of modesty.
While seemingly only a few people act arrogantly, it could be considered a human trait, at least potentially. We also know we are not hard-wired to conduct ourselves in a certain way but are capable of making choices. While a peacock may seem arrogant, in the animal kingdom that would have a neutral value whether a peacock actually was or not. Arrogance is a relative matters. It is neither saintly nor neutral. Isn’t sin also relative matter? Arrogance isn’t exactly murder, plunder… or even illegal. So what is the problem then, if any?
Some humans are seemingly predisposed to be arrogant but only under the right conditions, or, more specifically, given the chance to express it without fear of retaliation. Everyone's decisions and opinions are based on their background of information, life, experience, knowledge, status, position etc. The limitations have been formed and different opinions are coming up accordingly. Hence, self-confidence and arrogance are supported by one's background and when these people really trust themselves and believe that what they are saying and doing is a great and scarcity power indeed. It is difficult to have self-confidence if people do not have a good understanding about themselves as it needs successful history and logical analysis to support their confidence. Arrogant is confidence + judgment + courage. I believe that arrogance is positive if it can drive you to a right direction. Arrogant people stand up for what they believe in and are not afraid to speak their mind. They tend to be very extroverted and stand out in the world without the need to broadcast the common achievements of life. Real arrogance, when applied properly, gives the impression of perceived sense of superiority, wealth, and achievement without discussing it. It simply exudes.
Although many distinguish arrogance as a camouflage for low self esteem, it is absolutely ridiculous to put the two traits together. Arrogance is too “high and mighty” to be associated with this negative low self image as it exaggerated responses to defeats or disappointments, inability and reluctant to express own ideas and lacks belief in self. How can arrogance and low self esteem integrate when there is much difference between passivity and action, failure and success? Research shows that people with high self confidence and high intelligence suffer loss in self esteem are often confined to one domain such as academic achievement where they feel they have fail to live up to their own academic expectations. These people remain high achiever in their other areas of strength. Psychiatrists often perceive that arrogant people behave the way they do in order to mask their insecurities, self-consciousness and low self-esteem. Their reasons being there is an inherent fear of rejection which forces them to cover up their feelings and adopt oppressive mannerisms so that nobody can afford to ignore them. On the contrary, it is high self esteem that is more correlated to self confidence and arrogance as it defines practice of living consciously, of self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, purposefulness and of integrity.If in the face of discomfitting fear, a conscience cannot trust itself and has a guiding principle of preferring blindness to sight, then this person cannot experiences self-respect if his action betrays consciousness, knowledge, conviction and operates without integrity. People can be inspired, stimulated or coached to live more consciously, practice greater self-acceptance, operate more self-responsibly, function more self-assertively, live more purposefully, and bring a higher level of personal integrity but the task of generating and sustaining these practices falls on each of us alone but not everyone can live up to this calling.
The purpose of being arrogant is to "tone down" or silence your critics, dreamers, armchair socialists and diehard cynics. Being arrogant does not necessary mean being rude and forgetting one's basic etiquette around others. Manners serve as the means by which you maintain your aloofness and keep others distant in a socially acceptable way. The right blend of arrogance and humbleness is considered to be irresistible. Many great leaders gain much respect although they are outrageously arrogant. Only one leader has the guts "to get out of his grave to get things going even when he is six feet underground". There’s what arrogance is about, doing things that no one else dare to. Is there anything negative about arrogance then? In a nutshell, not everyone has the high caliber to be arrogant.
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