If only

'If only' can be destructive to reaching our goals and stop us from moving ahead. If only… I can live my life all over again…. had chosen a different career…. had not married…. hadn’t been born into this world…. if only…. if only…. ‘If only’ gives the luxury of making ourselves a helpless and passive responder to life’s events.

The “if only” dialogue… Husband: “If only my wife wouldn’t nag, I wouldn’t drink”. Wife: “If only my husband wouldn’t drink, I wouldn’t nag”.

Each person’s ‘if only’ is the cause of their behaviour and each person’s behaviour is the other person’s ‘if only’. In reality, ‘if only’ is our own choice.