Did you notice the world is fast aging?

Population aging is a global phenomenon affecting every man, woman and child and has a profound implication on many facets of the human lives. The 21st century will witness even more rapid aging due to the baby boomers after World War II. Aging is enduring, we cannot and will not return to the young populations that our ancestors knew. Although the concept of old age differs in different countries and cultures, gerontology remains the greatest challenge in this era. As lives develop, aging is continually evolving. Before a person is born the aging process has started. Once we start to show impairment of our organs, cognition, hearing,vision and our skin become dry, inelastic and pigmentation appears, wrinkling and sagging and hair become thin or vanishing, do we really want to live to a ripe old age?

If only

'If only' can be destructive to reaching our goals and stop us from moving ahead. If only… I can live my life all over again…. had chosen a different career…. had not married…. hadn’t been born into this world…. if only…. if only…. ‘If only’ gives the luxury of making ourselves a helpless and passive responder to life’s events.

The “if only” dialogue… Husband: “If only my wife wouldn’t nag, I wouldn’t drink”. Wife: “If only my husband wouldn’t drink, I wouldn’t nag”.

Each person’s ‘if only’ is the cause of their behaviour and each person’s behaviour is the other person’s ‘if only’. In reality, ‘if only’ is our own choice.

Will you live or will you die?

Suicide: An Unnecessary Death is an interesting book that addresses all the major areas of concern and interest. This is a subject that makes us feel sad and to some extent still remains a taboo in society. Suicidal behavior is a leading cause of injury and death worldwide. A cold look at data collates and disseminates by WHO on mortality and morbidity indicates approximately 1 million people around the world take their life every year and at least 10 times as many attempted suicide. It is regrettable that only a handful of authorities realised the economic and human burden suicide caused. Do they care about the suffering of families, friends and loved ones left behind? Are there sufficient ongoing efforts to decrease the significant loss of life caused by suicidal behavior? Do men live and die in vain? How sorrowful to approach the end of life without any accomplishment or closure.....


The past is but the beginning of a beginning, and all that is or has been is but the twilight of the dawn -H.G. Wells

Politics of emotion

When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long (Psalm 32:3)

Suppression…is it keeping a lid on our emotions... denial, repression and escapism? Time heals all wounds… does it apply in all situation? It’s debatable. What it really means is ‘Give me enough time and I can suppress anything’. Where does forgiveness and forgetting stand? Hiding negative emotions does not decrease the extent to which emotions are experienced, it only make one appear but not feel less emotional. It is amazing that we are better at suppressing than at letting go. In fact, we suppressed so much that we are in some way like a walking time bomb. Our body shows signs of stress… shoulders stuck in our ears, stomach in knots and then we exploded. The other side of the pendulum swing of suppression is expression… our emotion in action. Is negative expression more detrimental or encouraging than suppression? Neither suppression nor expression is a problem in and of itself. They are merely two different ends of the same spectrum of how we usually handle our emotions. A problem arises when we don’t feel in control over which one is happening, and many times we find ourselves doing the opposite of what we intended. Very often we get stuck on one side of the spectrum or the other. These are the moments when we need to find the freedom to let go.

Do you have what it takes?

It takes courage to stand for truth, justice and what is good
It takes concern to donate your time and money to people less fortunate
It takes love to consume less so that more can be shared with others
It takes commitment to follow through on promises made
It takes dedication to continue loving those who in in unloving ways
It takes perseverance to work through a personal crisis
It takes faith to keep believing God's light will shine in the darkness
It takes compassion to see 'Christ' in every other human being.

If love never last forever, what's forever for?

What happen when the people you love is no longer of sound mind? The only thing one can be sure in life is change - more specifically, people will change. Can we still love when taking care of elderly parents is trying and difficult? Can love rise above the ordinary? A bird may love a fish, but where will they live?

Moral Dilemma

How true is it that humans are the planet's most noble creatures and its most savage. Are we, the altruistic like Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Martin Luther King Jr or the atrocious like Stalin, Hitler and Pol Pot? Moral judgment is relatively consistent from person to person. However, moral behavior is scattered all over. The rules we know, even the one we intuitively feel, are by no means the rules we always follow. The brain works harder when the threat gets more complicated.