Binding love

Many people are seeking help finding for love. Often they have a track record of failed relationships and bad choices that seems inexplicable.

Although whom we fall in love with and why are unfathomable, all too often a pattern emerges. For when we searching for that special something in someone else, we are often looking for something very different: a missing part of ourselves. Of course, finding the missing capacities in someone else can be massively relieving and allow you to glow in pseudo-spiritual state of being madly in love. As time goes by, reality begins to set in. the rest of your beloved’s personality comes to the fore and you find that maybe they are not such a match for your missing bit after all. When the passion dies away, you are left with what you started, still missing that essential element of yourself than should be part of you, not projected out onto someone else.

Many times, part of the mystery of love is that we do find a part of ourselves in the ones we love. However, if we depend on someone else to feel whole and without them, something vital is missing from our very being, then we are indulging in a thrilling, romantic and all consuming fantasy that will remain incomplete. What more, it is always in a grave danger of being shattered.

Bibliotherapy

Bibliotherapy is a kind of therapy achieved through the use books or other types of literature. Self-help books are the most common form of bibliotherapy and the obvious value in that it provides the opportunity for the participants to recognize and understand themselves, their characteristics and the complexity of human thought and behavior. It may also promote social development as well as the love of literature in general and reading in particular. It reduces feelings of isolation that may be felt by people with problems. It generally refers to the use of literature to help people cope with emotional problems, mental illness or difficulties in their lives and produce affective changes.

By providing literature relevant to their personal situations and developmental needs at a suitable time, bibliotherapy practitioners attempt to help people of all ages to understand themselves and to cope with problems such as separation and divorce, child abuse, foster care, and adoption. The use of literature can be used to help people cope with emotional problems and mental illnesses that have occurred in their lives. As a result of the change, it promotes personality and developmental growth. Reading related books often helps and the discussion and follow-up activities are what makes bibliotherapy commanding. The key is to find quality literature where the main character is experiencing problems similar to those of the participants.

The underlying of bibliotherapy is that clients identify with literary characters similar to themselves, an association that helps the clients release emotions, gain new directions in life, and explore new ways of interacting. Quality is important because if the story is not credible to the reader, neither will the solutions be. Whichever is the approach, bibliotherapy requires careful planning as it seeks to help clients respond directly to the materials they are given, so that change is effected through catharsis, insight, provide information, stimulate discussion about problems, communicate new values and attitudes, create awareness that other people have similar problems and provide realistic solutions to problems.

However, the effectiveness of bibliotherapy may be limited by the availability of materials on certain topics, as well as the lack of client ability, readiness and willingness to read. They may also project their own motives onto characters and thus reinforce their own perceptions and solutions.

Why are we stressful?

Every one of us is familiar with stress as we experience it in varying forms and degrees every day. In small doses, stress can actually be beneficial to us. It is only when the stress becomes too great that it affects our physical or mental functioning. In small doses, stressors gives us increased energy and alertness, even helping to keep us focused on the problem at hand. This is likely t be a pumped up type of stressful feeling. However, as the level of pressure gets too great, stress may eventually surpasses our ability to cope with it in a positive way resulting in severe burned out or at our wits end.

Everyone reacts to stress differently. Each of us has a different level of pressure threshold to handle a bad outcome. Only we ourselves can assess our level of tolerance to stressful situations and seek the best treatment prevent it from getting too overwhelming. However, this is not always possible because the external stressors may often be beyond our control.

If we are able to identify the source of our stress and remove it or address the situation, that may significantly resolve some negative vibes and anxiety. Even if we are only able to get away for a few seconds or minutes, the break is important and can help you on the way to a more permanent solution. The break may well stop a provoking situation or mentally removing yourself from the stressor through a mental distraction. The point of these actions is to allow us a moment to relax and formulate a plan for dealing with the problem at hand. Just having a plan can be a great stress reliever. It gives us a set of positive steps that you can work on to get yourself back to your baseline and out of the stressful situation. Well, but it’s all easier said than done. Why are we stressful? Sometimes we wonder why too....

Rainbow after the rain

After the rain, water molecules reflect the sunlight and the effect of the colour raising up to the sky is a rainbow. Rainbow after the rain is often used to describe the positive result after going through tough and difficult times. In hard times of hurt, frustration of life, discouraging experience and life with full of adversity, struggle everywhere and unending passage of different stages of life battle. How long can it go on in life? I came across this poem below and indeed, no life is in vain for there is always rainbow after the rain.

God never promise us a good life on earth; but He gave the assurance that there will always be a rainbow after the rain.

Life on earth is not always what we expected and wanted it to be. But if we can put our trust in God, He can sail us through definitely.

God never let us bear what is impossible; and He makes sure what we bear is thelimit that we can take without much difficulty.

After the rain, things will be changed; everything on earth seems to be new and clean. With these renew scenario, we should be:

a more positive and courageous person as indicated by the RED of the rainbow;

a creative, thoughtful and joyful person as indicated by the ORANGE of the rainbow;

a confident, intelligent and logical person as indicated by the YELLOW of the rainbow;

a renewed, generous and practical person as indicated by the GREEN of the rainbow;

a peaceful, sincere and responsible person as indicated by the BLUE of the rainbow;

a relaxed, devoted and wise person as indicated by the INDIGO of the rainbow;

a spiritual and idealistic person as indicated by the VIOLET of the rainbow.